To the Girl Who Wished She Had Celiac Disease so She Could Be "Skinny Like Me"
I met you my first week as a college freshman. You know what I thought first when I saw you? "Wow. She's gorgeous." Long, thick blond hair; clear skin; curves that were sure to catch even the upperclassmen's attention. She was everything I wasn't. She was, in some aspects, everything celiac disease had taken away.
You see, I'd only received my celiac disease diagnosis a few months before. Some girls get a surprise serenade from a cute boy asking them to prom; the week before my senior prom, I got a call from my doctor instead. In that afternoon phone call, a few simple words changed my life: "celiac disease" and then "gluten free diet." I spent the summer before my freshman year of college shopping for notebooks and dorm furniture and a new backpack - but also learning how to eat a diet I'd never even heard of weeks before.
"I did not count on any college scholar to need to be me."
In fact, the day before I moved into my college dorm, I underwent my second endoscopy and my first colonoscopy. I wasn't healing normally on a gluten free diet, and my doctors needed to find out why. Honestly, I didn't even have time to get nervous about how my college roommate would handle my "special requests" (AKA my own mini fridge, my own microwave and half of the room, all covered in "gluten free" sticky notes). There's only so much you can think about when you're trying not to go mad eating nothing but chicken stock, jello and the special "colonoscopy prep" cocktail.
I don't say all of this to make you feel bad for me or to get pity. I just want to help explain why I didn't expectany college student to want to be me. At that point, I was 100% gluten free but still struggling to heal...which meant I was down to 85 pounds at 5'3". While my fellow freshman hall mates devoured pizza and hamburgers and whatever meals happened to catch their eye in our college cafeteria, I scoured the salad bar and the small "gluten free" section, trying to find something safe and filling. I ate a lot of salads.
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| The most effective form of pizza I enjoyed in college... |
I had a mouthful of lettuce whilst you made this remark - a comment that occurred four years in the past however nevertheless sticks out in my mind. We had been sitting collectively inside the cafeteria, together with all of the other women from our hall. It's a normal freshman approach: protection in numbers, we suppose. And, apparently, you care about numbers.
How do I know? Because, even as you bit into that slice of pizza (pepperoni with extra cheese, which reminded me of the Papa John's pizza my family would order some Sunday nights), you said it: "I wish I could have celiac disease so I could be skinny like you."
At the time, I laughed it off. I chuckled, stabbed at every other piece of wilted lettuce and stated, "Well, I'd change you ten pounds for a slice of that pizza."
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| THIS is what my "skinny" bodyreally looked like... |
Now, though, I'm done laughing. I know you didn't mean any harm. You were - maybe still are - just a victim of the societal beauty standards that proclaim skinny is best. However, I'm now four years older, stronger and more experienced. And this is what I wish I had said to you - and what I wish everyone would know about celiac disease.
"I desire I'd instructed you that, as sick as I became from celiac sickness headaches, your mind-set changed into even sicker."
I wish I had told you that not everyone with celiac disease is skinny. In fact, "celiac disease weight gain" is a popular Google search because it does happen relatively often. Some people diagnosed with celiac disease are overweight. Celiacs can also gain weight on the gluten free diet, either because their body is finally absorbing nutrients or because they load up on gluten free alternatives to old foods. So don't assume that celiac disease will lead to weight loss - or that you must experience weight loss to receive a celiac disease diagnosis.
I wish I had told you that celiac disease is so much more than an "excuse" to eat healthy. Celiac disease is a chronic autoimmune disorder. Undiagnosed, celiac disease can cause infertility or miscarriages, cancer, other autoimmune disorders and more. And eating a celiac disease diet is much more complicated than just going gluten free. Let's use an analogy from a recent edition of Gluten Free Nation magazine. Imagine cutting up one piece of bread into 7,300 pieces. Just one of those tiny pieces can sicken and cause dangerous intestinal damage in celiacs like me.
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| After I turned into hospitalized... |
I wish I had told you that, as sick as I was at the time from celiac disease complications, your mindset was even sicker. It's sad - scary, even - that girls like you are often tricked into valuing appearance over health. There is nothing glamorous at weighing 83 lbs at 18 years old and having to be hospitalized and fed through a feeding tube for two weeks. Who cares if you're "skinny" if you can't live fully enough - or, even more seriously, long enough - to enjoy it?
"I've found out how appropriate it feels to be healthful...And I need every different person to have the threat to appreciate that same feeling."
I'm sure that a lot has changed in the four years since these words escaped your lips. We've both graduated college, and you're probably experiencing your share of life milestones, as am I. All I have left to do is to share a few hopes. I hope that you learned more about celiac disease from the time you spent at college with me. I hope you love your curves and your thick hair and all of the other physical signs that your body is healthy and thriving. 
And I hope you never again wish to have celiac disease so you can be skinny. First, because one doesn't necessarily lead to the other. And second? Because I've learned how good it feels to be healthy...and I want every other person to have the chance to strive for - and savor - that same feeling.
*Also found at Wine'd Down Wednesday, Wow Me Wednesday, This is How We Roll, RunningWithSpoons, Share Fest, Dare to Share*
Have you ever received impolite or ignorant feedback approximately celiac disease or every other persistent infection? How do you reply?
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